Root to Bloom: A Framework for Compassion
By Jayanta Chakraborty
When we see a weed in the garden, we know that cutting off the top won't stop it from growing back; we have to get the root. The same is true for our children's behavior. In Monk Parenting, we use the Root to Bloom process10. The behavior—whether it’s hitting, crying, or defiance—is just the 'bloom' or the flower11. It is the visible expression of something deeper. The 'roots' are the underlying feelings, needs, beliefs, and nervous system states12. Perhaps the root of a tantrum is a feeling of powerlessness, or the root of aggression is a need for protection. When we focus on the bloom (the behavior), we often use labels like 'lazy' or 'bad,' which are judgments that shut down connection13. When we focus on the root, we enter a space of problem-solving. By addressing the root cause, we don't just stop the behavior for today; we help the child integrate the experience and grow. To know more please connect to our Certified parenting coach. To know m.. Read more »