8 Ways to Manage Acting-Out Kids

By Mr. Anonymous

1. Stop Blaming Yourself for Your Child’s Behavior

I tell parents who blame themselves to cut it out. Remember, it’s not whose fault it is—it’s who’s willing to take responsibility.

So if you’re looking for answers in Monk Parent articles and otherwise trying to improve your parenting skills, then you’re taking responsibility. Maybe you messed up in the past, but let’s start here, today, with what you are willing to do for your child now.

The next step is to try to get your child in a position where he becomes willing to take responsibility for his behavior.

2. Don’t Get Sucked Into Arguments

I always tell parents that they don’t have to attend every fight they’re invited to. Don’t let children suck you into an argument when they slam their bedroom door loudly or roll their eyes at you. I think the best thing to do is say:

“Hey, don’t slam the door.”

And then leave the room. Give your child a verbal reprimand right there on the spot, and then go.