Secure Kids Start with Secure Parents

By Jayanta Chakraborty

In the rush to fix our children’s behaviors or ensure their happiness, we often forget the most important variable in the equation: Us.

Renowned experts Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have demonstrated that a secure attachment within a parent directly impacts the security created with the child⁸. This means that being at peace with your own past experiences and how they manifest today is crucial⁹.

It is a profound truth that the security you have within yourself determines the security you can provide for your child¹⁰. If you are feeling overwhelmed by this, take a deep breath. You are exactly where you need to be¹¹.

The most important gift you can give your children is to show up authentically¹². This journey involves creating a coherent narrative of your own childhood story to cultivate a sense of safety in your own body, heart, and mind¹³. By showing up for yourself first, you create the capacity to show up for them¹⁴.